SA Dating Scene – First Draft
Written for: SA Pulse Magazine
By: Sophie Cruz
If the dating world were to be compared to a store, the city of San Antonio would be found in the ‘used’ bin at 20% off. Nowadays no matter what race a man is, we women find ourselves dealing with a lot of Machismo men, and once you’ve dated one of these machos, you can pretty much consider yourself off-limits to all of his surrounding social groups. So, how on earth is a single girl going to meet a guy in San Antonio??
Most women in their mid 20’s- early 30’s are resorting to other cities such as Austin, Houston and Dallas. Going out in one of those cities is like going to shop at Nordstrom’s when all you’ve ever been to is Wal-Mart. It’s not to say that there aren’t quality men in this city but let’s be honest, do you really think you will find your white knight at the bar scene? I don’t think so. We get so excited to hear that Lake season is right around the corner because we have the opportunity to meet hot guys with their lake ready bodies. But if you really think about it, you will be so intoxicated from the 5 hour beer drinking, jello shot taking and beer bonging that you won’t remember any of these ‘hot’ guys you meet out there. So you pretty much just wasted your time and got yourself a good beer belly for the day.
It’s not any easier for men either. Have you ever been out in the San Antonio social scene? The ratio of men to women feels like 10:1. Buying a girl a drink doesn’t get her attention anymore. Not when there are five other guys doing the exact same thing. So how do YOU stand out? If you think that whistling, hollering or rubbing up on a girl is going to cut it, you can pretty much bet on staying single forever. You need to be in a place where you will be taken seriously. Also, word of mouth about your reputation goes a long way, this applies to the ladies as well. Remember to keep a low profile on things you wish to stay private. If you have a bad rep, consider moving out of the city because your scarlet letter will take years to come off.
Just because San Antonio is the 7th largest city in the United States, does not mean that good gossip doesn’t travel fast. San Antonio is a large city with a limited social scene. For nightlife we have Downtown, Stone Oak, Broadway and various beer gargling bars. This creates a rotation of nightlife in order to avoid your everyday bar flies. The issue here is that everyone tends to want to rotate at the same time. So the inevitable run in to your ex- lover occurs monthly, you see the girl/guy you like but is off limits weekly and your stalker daily.
Since the dating scene is limited in this city, you have to think of new things to do. If not, you will be stuck in this vicious cycle and be doomed with single life forever…. Please note the sarcasm!! Even with all of the things mentioned above, you have to keep the faith that there is someone out there for you.
Here are a few new things that San Antonian’s are doing to meet people:
- Joining a Sport League- Volleyball, Flag Football, Basketball, etc..
- Taking Dance lessons
- Checking out the Express News Weekender and attending one of the Downtown Hosted events
- Launch parties- Magazines, Art Galleries, Fashion Boutiques
- Young professional Networking events